Written by Ashton Deroy

Why Traditional ‘Behavior Control’ Often Fails Children with Autism and What Helps Instead

They are beginning to talk about the problems of my upbringing. Which means I can literally begin to get better. Traditional Behavior control. What is it ? Well in my households growing up. It looked like me being treated as the family dog.

Making my Autism smaller. So that everyone else felt better. Meanwhile I was falling short on healthcare such as needing psychiatric meds after highschool. Meanwhile I was becoming fed up with the family members who controlled me. So much so that letting the mask slip? I did terrify my mother at 17. This I own up to . I am still pissed at them to! Stop trying to control me! You have no rights. I will go ballistic if I have to! Obey orders of No Contact! Cause you guys think you can handle a relationship with me. Then you go right back to trying to exercise petty controls and it’s ridiculous.

Even my Step Brother Matt? Attempted to tell me how to behave when he introduced me to his friend in the Philipines. ‘Don’t act crazy.” My reply I am crazy feel free to fuck off. As if he wasn’t the problem there? Here is an idea jackass. Don’t go to a foreign country for binge drinking that pisses off the locals!

You can’t act your way out of being autistic.

Either way I will always have some degree of…. Coordination impairment, limitations for the amount of work I can do in a day, Crippling disorienting headaches and a low social battery. Listen the Behavior Controls method drove me nuts as an autistic adult. I can no longer stand much of my family. This is a side effect. If an autistic adult feels relatives exercised too much control over them? It will become a dangerous resentment. You maybe think you have your reasons for being this controlling. There is no excuse to practice this much control over another person.

You do not have to choose this method if you are a parent of someone with autism. There are better options. Up to and including. The autistic child in your family? Doesn’t have to get a relationship with every backwards ass relative you have. It’s not worth behavior controls which will later grow into…. No realistic sense for one’s own limitations, rage and a general mental illness that can be a summarized psychosis.

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If my family wanted to issue a rebuttal to this? My Return statement would simply be. ‘Go Fuck yourselves!” I completely own up to feeling nothing but white hot rage for them. My mother saw the mask fall off when I was 17 and she was terrified. ‘It’s me hi. I’m the problem it’s me.” Taylor Swift. How can someone think we have a good relationship? When she used me as carry on luggage to her yearly boyfriend’s house from 6 till I was 14. I hate her. How could I not? Glad she was attempting piss poor intimate relationships well I had none.

I have cut off relatives who?

1. Pushed me too hard.
2. Practiced petty controls
3. Used me as luggage for things I didn’t want to attend.
4. Yelled at me or got snarky with me.
5. Socialize with literal idiots. Including coke heads. Like mom did!
6. Practice Traditional culture.

My Graduation photo from a Belleville Ontario Public School. Where I attended and this is true? The Special Ed Program. The joke here is? I moved in with my Dad. My Grades instantly improved, my health markers improved and I began becoming functional. This is proof of a long term pattern of debilitating family relationships with my Mom’s side of the family.

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How I think of my family after all of this? They would do anything to send me to the meat Grinder. Can’t trust them. Stay away from now on! They are in love with? Easy answers, mundane reality, Religion, Social Welfare and The Military Industrial complex.